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Of course, Stan hated butterflies, but still the machine wouldn't start and nothing he did could make it work, even setting the machine to maximum.
Being human, we will all have the odd day during our working lives when we don’t feel 100% or something at home or work is playing on our mind. These ways of focusing staying positive are my own subjective opinions, and everyone will have their own ways, and there are many tips and options out there, ones that you may have not even heard of.
When in the vicinity of a mood hoover, I think it is often a person’s natural instinct to at least try and ignore it. However, they definitely aren’t considering you and your well-being when they’re engaging in such behaviour. With so much uncertainty and change at the moment, it’s hard to stay positive and “we are all entitled to an off day”. Going it alone for a short time when he's working away is very different to lone parenting where you know it's just you.
If a mood hoover is unable to blame somebody else for their failure, you’ll notice they quickly pivot to pointing out the unreasonable behaviour or actions of another as an excuse. I’m not talking about the colleague who lets off steam about something or the teacher who often gets involved in heated discussions regarding school policy. When you finally manage to get yourself away, you often feel drained, exhausted and maybe even a little sad or upset. I’ve seen teachers in tears because a colleague refuses to try out something or simply dismisses their ideas in planning meetings.James Fowler of UC San Diego and Nic Christakis of Harvard describe the ‘chain reaction’ of compassion and how it has a domino effect on those we come into contact with.
Reactive people (mood hovers) tend to focus on these concerns and ignore those things over which they have control. Practice bringing your attention to your breathing in those moments when you are experiencing others’ negativity. If the ratio isn’t working out in your favour and you’re beginning to feel dragged down, consider limiting the amount of time that you spend around people who drain your energy. i had to make up an alternate ending for my autistic son to try and explain to him that the boy realised he had been horrible and then went and put things right with all the people he had upset.The slightest change or new idea is immediately attacked; especially if it might require a little bit of thought and attention or mean taking a risk. Be polite, professional and supportive, but do what you need to do to protect your own mental health at the moment – it’s taken a bit of a battering recently. You need to start planning your exit now before your children and you are further affected by his abuse. You can change your choices at any time by visiting Cookie preferences, as described in the Cookie notice. He seems like a huffy arse, that is wearing and annoying, and communication obviously isn’t great, but I’m not seeing abusive necessarily.
Gather your team and talk through wonky thinking attitudes, and agree to use the phrase to support each other to think differently. As long as overall our contribution to the world of work and particularly our colleagues is positive and adds to the camaraderie, the odd minor grump can be overlooked. IME you can hope it gets better and it won't, then eventually split when your DC are teens - totally recommend doing it sooner. What this means simply is that some people see the positive in situations and some the negative, and your upbringing plays a role in determining where the balance lies. People may feel as though they can’t challenge a loved one or a friend on the negative impact they can have on their feelings when interacting with them, but there are some strategies for coping with such situations.We've all known surly, difficult boys (and girls) who don't seem to realise that making other people unhappy won't actually make them any happier.